On Engagement and Conflict

If there was only one thing I could ensure every teacher did and did well it would be engagement.  It’s the gateway to learning, it’s the lifeblood of education.  That’s what my book and electronic workbook “The Magic of Engagement” are about.

It goes beyond the theory and idea of what exactly engagement is (which alone might surprise you!) and walks you through over 20 specific tools and their variations with discussion on why and how each of them are successful so you can build and develop your own tailored, activities: for the classroom, the boardroom, or the training room.

Conflict is inevitable. Many of us are afraid of it, seeing it as something potentially dangerous to a relationship and even to ourselves.

But what if we reframed conflict and experienced as an invitation to be in relationship, to improve our relationship and ourselves?

What if you had tools that could make conflict something you almost looked forward to – not for the competition or even the sake of the conflict – because you knew it would allow you to grow, in your relationship with others and in understanding yourself.

Most people aren’t as skilled with conflict as they’d like. It’s not something we seem hardwired for, we have to be taught. Indeed, we learn how to negotiate conflict whether we know it or not.

As teachers, parents, administrators, employers, students, friends, and nemeses how we manage conflict, or how it manages us, has huge impacts on our relationships.

What if I told you there was a way to come through virtually all conflict with a “resolution” that was a win-win? Not compromise or negotiation and certainly not tug or war or giving in. Truly engaging and meeting the needs of both sides.

Within concepts and exploration, there are tools that help clarify conflict and behavior, allowing us to explore cause and effect. It’s all pretty cool really. Bottom line, it’s about meeting everyone’s needs; it’s about win-win.